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DEAR MR. BLUE:
ADVICE FOR LOVERS AND WRITERS

Garrison Keillor

Score!
I'm having sex with my daughter's basketball coach and I'm terrified she'll find out. Should I bail out now or go for it?

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By Garrison Keillor

March 28, 2000 |   Mr. Blue writes this week from a sunny hotel room in London, about to head home. The Blue family had a fine time and how could we not, in such a great city? For one thing, it's a great newspaper city; the morning reader has a big buffet to choose from, and what a pleasure to get away from the daily meat loaf of the New York Times and read some journalists who have the capacity to surprise. The English press is freewheeling, capable of delicious sarcasm, wild hair-up-the-bum opinions and merciless wit (for which it atones by publishing those long elegant loving obituaries when Great Men and Great Women finally succumb).

Yesterday we went to the London Zoo, a wonderful place with stately architecture and well-tended animals and beautiful plantings, and you stroll around on a spring day, flocks of white and yellow daffodils blooming here and there, and observe the giraffe couple nuzzling each other and lightly necking, and the elephants politely noshing their hay, and the fish, the beautiful fish, in the aquarium. Baby Blue sat on the railing, in front of tank after tank, like watching fish TV, looking at the tomato clownfish and the Picasso triggerfish and the foxface rabbitfish and the yellow sailfin tang and the porkfish, bright yellows and blues sailing through the water, and a horsefaced fish, bright blue with yellow trim, who seemed to be the boss, pecking at the others. Afterward, you walk across the broad green sward of Regents Park to the outdoor cafe by the Queen Mary Garden and sit and enjoy lovely sandwiches and a plate of green curry in the sunshine. Nearby is a close-clipped lawn where Mr. Blue, one spring day years ago, rented a canvas reclining chair and reclined in it and napped for a couple hours. Felt like a Wodehouse character, an old boy from the Drones Club, but woke up feeling as cheerful as P.G. himself and went off for a lovely walk and a good dinner.

When an American starts talking about "lovely sandwiches" and "a lovely walk," it's time to leave England and come home and go to stock car races or read David Mamet, but it's a great city, London. The older traveler sits in the park, eating his sandwich, and thinks that perhaps he has seen enough of the world and that perhaps his traveling from now on will be limited to return trips to places he's already seen. One can survive not having seen Japan, or South Africa, or Rio, or Moscow, or anyplace else -- the aim of travel is to get away from home, for the pleasure of the departure and the pleasure of the return, and to spend the intervening time in an interesting place, and it doesn't really matter where. A person could do worse than simply keep coming back to London -- be a sort of monogamous traveler -- and the city would keep rewarding you with new sights. At Mr. Blue's age, one could be happy as a tomato clownfish, if your tank were London. Hope to return soon. And now on to the week's mail.



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Dear Mr. Blue,

After five-and-a-half years of no sex, I worked up the nerve to call this man I have known casually for a year and ask him over for dinner. I figured, be brave and go for it. We had a lovely time and ended up in bed together. I am 47. He is 53. We are both unattached, but both have children still at home. In fact, he is my daughter's basketball coach. I shudder at the thought. I now find myself sneaking around trying to figure out how to see him without my daughter finding out. Neither one of us is ready for this to go too far too fast. But I am so completely inexperienced at this, I find myself wondering if I just shouldn't say thanks for a wonderful evening and bail out now. I seriously doubt we would ever end up together as partners -- I just want to have some fun with another consenting adult. He definitely wants to get together again, and I find myself planning to get rid of my kid for a few hours to hop in the sack with this guy. Any suggestions?

Salome

Dear Salome,

Good for you. You saw what you wanted and you went out and got it, and I'm sure it was a lovely time, you and the basketball coach, and now you must deal with the slight complications. Go ahead and see him again, I say. (He's Italian, right?) What's the problem? Suggestions about what? What to wear? What music to put on? What snacks to serve afterward? I say togas, Verdi and a thin-crust pizza.

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